One of the oldest arguments when it comes to wedding planning has always be whether or not you should invite children. Some people do, and some people do not. It is always hard to determine whether or not you feel that you should have children at your wedding, but there are several things that you should keep in mind.
First of all, one of the most important deciding factors is whether or not you and your fiancÃ© like to be around children. If both of you are very family oriented, and hope to start a family of your own soon, and if you adore children and like to spend time with them, then there is really no question about it, no matter how formal your wedding is. If you feel that lacking the joy children might bring would be detrimental to your wedding day, you should include children on your RSVPs and make sure that parents know they are invited.
The other side of the coin is if you and your fiancÃ© really donâ€™t enjoy being around children. Perhaps you donâ€™t want to start a family any time soon, and you really donâ€™t enjoy having children around you – especially other peopleâ€™s children. If this is the case, remember that the day is your day and you should feel comfortable. If having an abundance of children around wouldnâ€™t make you feel comfortable, than perhaps you shouldnâ€™t include them in your special day.
A big factor that you need to keep in mind, however, when planning your wedding, is how your families relate to children and what kind of families you have. If you have all grown siblings who donâ€™t have children, and if your cousins are all old and most of them arenâ€™t married, then it isnâ€™t going to be a problem to not invite kids to the wedding. However, if your families are large and there are lots of children in your family, you might have a problem. If you have siblings that have young children, asking them to not bring their children might hurt their feelings, and they might be upset that you feel their children are too loud or not well behaved enough to attend your wedding.
You have to keep in mind that even though it is your wedding, you are going to be responsible for the way that people feel at it. If you are going to make a rule that says that children canâ€™t come, it might be a good idea to talk to the people who have children personally and to tell them that it really has nothing to do with their children or with them. However, no matter how nicely you explain it, donâ€™t be surprised if a lot of people wonâ€™t come to the wedding if they canâ€™t bring their kids. You might have a smaller guest list if you make this decision, but it is something that might be important enough to you to make that decision.
One last thing to keep in mind is whether or not your wedding and your reception are going to be very formal affairs. It has traditionally been the case that most of the time when children arenâ€™t invited to a wedding, it is because the couple feels that the wedding and the reception should be a very lavish, very formal adult affair. Make sure that your wedding fits into this assumption if you donâ€™t want to have children there. If you have a very informal wedding and reception, most people wonâ€™t understand if you choose not to have children present.